8 Signs That Someone Is Secretly Holding a Grudge Against You — And How to Protect Your Peace

You might notice they change the subject as you join in, or they “forget” to invite you to gatherings you would normally attend.

This quiet exclusion can be a passive-aggressive way they express their feelings.

3. They give backhanded compliments

Phrases like “That outfit is surprisingly flattering” or “You look great for your age” sound positive at first but carry a hidden sting.

4. They avoid eye contact

Avoiding your gaze can signal discomfort, guilt, or unresolved anger. It is a silent way to keep emotional distance.

5. They are quick to criticise or correct you

Though constructive feedback is healthy, constant nitpicking or condescending “advice” can be a way to undermine you.

6. They downplay your achievements

As you share good news, they may change the subject, give a half-hearted “congratulations,” or try to one-up you.