The cost is high: fewer social circles, fewer invitations, more misunderstanding. The benefit is greater: inner coherence.
They prefer solitude to betraying themselves.
2. They don’t participate in gossip.
Much of the social interaction in some groups revolves around talking about people who aren’t present.
For many, that’s a form of connection.
For them, it’s uncomfortable.
They don’t feel comfortable speaking ill of someone who can’t defend themselves. They change the subject. They remain silent. They even defend the absent person.
And that makes the group uncomfortable.
Not because they think they’re superior, but because they have a different ethical code. If they don’t have something nice to say, they prefer to say nothing.
The result is predictable: they stop being invited to certain places.
They maintain their values… but lose popularity.
3. They are highly selective.
They don’t open up easily.
They don’t trust quickly.
They don’t befriend just anyone.
