3. You Avoid Conflict at All Costs
If you think never arguing means your marriage is solid, think again.
Conflict avoidance is one of the most common and damaging habits in long-term relationships. When issues go unspoken, resentment festers. Disagreements don’t just disappear because you don’t voice them—they go underground, where they quietly erode trust and intimacy.
Healthy marriages aren’t free of conflict—they’re built on constructive conflict, where both partners feel safe expressing their needs without fear of judgment or emotional shutdown.
4. You’re Sharing a Bed, But Not Sleeping Well
Snoring. Different sleep schedules. Tossing and turning. As harmless as they seem, poor sleep can become a silent stressor that spills over into your relationship.
Enter the concept of a “sleep divorce”—where couples choose to sleep in separate beds (or even separate rooms) to prioritize rest. While the term sounds dramatic, the effect can be anything but. Experts say it’s often a saving grace for couples who love each other but can’t share a mattress without resentment building.
Better rest = better moods = better connection. Don’t underestimate the power of a good night’s sleep.
5. You Don’t Look Forward to Spending Time Together Anymore
Independence is healthy. Alone time is essential. But if you find yourself dreading time with your partner—or simply feeling indifferent—that’s a red flag.
Marriage should feel like a safe, enjoyable space. If shared dinners, date nights, or even casual conversation start to feel like a chore, that’s often a sign of emotional distance creeping in. You don’t need to be inseparable—but you do need to genuinely want to be around each other.
6. Money Talks Never Happened—or Stay Surface-Level
Money stress is one of the leading causes of relationship breakdowns, and yet so many couples avoid honest conversations about it.
Did you ever sit down and talk about how to split expenses, manage debt, or plan for the future? Or is your financial life more of a guessing game?
Transparency around money isn’t just practical—it builds trust. From salary differences to spending habits to long-term financial goals, open communication is key. The American Psychological Association even recommends routine “money dates” to stay on the same page and reduce financial tension.
