By losing one’s own space, one also loses privacy, authority, and, over time, identity. Forced cohabitation can transform an older adult into a permanent, dependent, and silent guest, even when surrounded by people.
Furthermore, there is a frequent risk: becoming the permanent caregiver for grandchildren simply to “be available,” which ends up exhausting someone physically and emotionally, someone who has already completed their child-rearing phase. Family bonds are strengthened more through chosen visits than through imposed cohabitation.
Moving in with children should only be considered when there is severe physical dependency and no professional care alternatives are available. Before that point, relinquishing autonomy often comes at a very high cost.
Living with peers: a growing alternative worldwide
For those who do not wish to live alone or move in with their children, there is an increasingly valued option: living with people of the same stage of life. Known as cohousing or peer cohabitation, this model combines independence with companionship.
Each person maintains their private space, but shares closeness, support, and social life with friends or like-minded individuals. This reduces isolation, stimulates mental activity, and creates a genuine support network, free from hierarchies and forced roles.
Living near those who share similar memories, rhythms, and experiences allows one to age in companionship, without sacrificing freedom. It’s not about living crammed together, but rather integrated, with doors that open by choice, not obligation.
The environment matters more than the number of people.
A common mistake is believing that a house full of family members guarantees well-being. The reality is different: the quality of the environment is more important than the number of people living there. A safe, accessible, functional, and stimulating home protects autonomy and prevents accidents, dependency, and sadness.
Dangerous staircases, poorly adapted bathrooms, or impractical spaces can be more limiting than loneliness. Designing the right environment is a long-term health strategy.
