When the body is used to quench a hunger of the soul, one does not find peace, but more thirst.
2. Not giving up the body without a covenant commitment
Intimacy was never thought of as a simple physical act. It has a deep spiritual dimension. That is why the Bible links it directly to marriage: the covenant is what protects, honors, and sustains the union.
Giving one’s body without commitment often leaves feelings of emptiness, painful emotional attachment, and confusion. Not because the desire is bad, but because a door is opening without adequate protection.
True love is not demonstrated by how quickly someone crosses boundaries, but by how willing they are to respect them. The body is not a test or a preview: it is a temple that deserves honor.
3. Not allowing pornography to enter intimacy
Pornography does not educate or strengthen the relationship. It warps desire, breaks emotional connection, and shuts down spiritual sensitivity. Over time, it replaces real closeness with unrealistic fantasies and generates comparison, dissatisfaction, and distance.
This habit not only affects single people; It also erodes marriages, breaks trust, and creates a quiet dependency that damages the way we love. What seems private ends up having profound consequences on the mind, the heart, and the relationship with God.
Purity begins in thoughts, not just actions.
4. Do not use intimacy as punishment, control or reward
When intimacy becomes currency, its original purpose is lost. Holding it to punish, offering it to get something, or using it as manipulation breaks unity and opens doors to resentment.
Intimacy was created to express love, not to exert power. When used as a tool of control, it ceases to be an act of surrender and becomes an emotional battleground.
Wounds are not healed by silence or distance, but by dialogue, prayer and mutual restoration.
5. Do not ignore the voice of conscience and the Holy Spirit
That inner discomfort, that silent warning before crossing a boundary, is no coincidence. It is a protection. Repeatedly ignoring it hardens the heart and makes the wrong thing start to seem normal.
Conviction is not condemnation, it is care. It is a sign that God is still present, guiding and alerting. Listening in time can avoid years of guilt, pain, and unnecessary consequences.
